As promised, after the Oracle's Teazers blogs and Koo's counter-blogs, here's one to stir up some heated debate and some controversy, probably some downright flame wars even?

It's been commented in the blogs about Teazers that men exploit women sexually in these clubs, degrading them and taking advantage of the "weaker sex". In my opinion most of the time this "men exploit weaker women" statement/idea is plain and simple bull-poo.

Please note I did say "most of the time" and there may be legitimate exploitation and abuse but it is most definitely not as one-sided as women’s rights proponents claim it to be.

There's even a term or two for this women exploiting men side of the equation: gold digger or sometimes also called cock tease or just plain tease (Which is probably why Teazers is actually CALLED that). Whatever you call it, it is basically a woman exploiting a man, usually by employing sex or sexual innuendo. The preceding terms is usually reserved for non-cash exploitation. When actual money is involved in this process it can probably be classed as prostitution?

From my own experience and reports from others I have noticed the following: Women rarely have to pay for their own drinks in a pub/club. They dress provocatively in the knowledge that they will be able to trick a man or six to pay their way, by no more than showing a bit of cleavage or skin etc, flirting and implying that there might be a reward etc. Of course, when that reward never happen it kinda pisses guys off and if the ladies did their job too well in their acting and the guy got fooled into believing something and tries to act on these signals it leads to charges of assault or attempted rape etc. How many rape cases have been overturned because the lady happened to wear just a bit more than a playboy centerfold or a "lady of negotiable affection"? So, women basically trick men into giving them "stuff" by using their sexual side.

The above is just a pub and it's expected right? Or at least that would be the comment anyway but it's not just drinks that get used in this exploitation. Even if a guy is not planning/trying for a quicky or one-night stand with a girl he still ends up being exploited, taken for a ride, played etc by being made to pay for the attention of a lady.

I've met a few ladies and have gone through the process of dating, not with sex in mind as target but at getting to know the lady better and working on a relationship and onwards to maybe someday yes that sex thing. But as it has been stated, the amount of exploitation a man has to suffer to get to that point depends on how much he can be milked for by a woman. A few cups of coffee over a number of dates, a lunch or dinner or two, or six, a few drinks a couple of times, small gifts with huge price tags... It can add up to thousands of Rands over months to get a lady to stay around long enough to develop a relationship to a point where things can be taken more serious and to the eventual level of sex or long term relationship like engagement or marriage.

Thousands of Rands, months of time and just a slight possibility compared to a much smaller amount and a few minutes negotiation... which one would you pick?  Yes it's not all about sex and there are other things attached to a relationship but ultimately there will be some sex involved too. And there comes the next bit of exploitation. Once you got it it's like being on drugs. You want/need more and there's someone willing to satisfy that craving: If you have the price. Of course, it could cost you that R100 on some street corner or so and the urge is gone, or...back to the paying an arm and a leg in gifts and treats to the lady of the relationship for the same, again, that's why prostitutes have steady jobs, and single ladies can always find a mark to exploit.

Men like looking at beautiful ladies. We do it as we walk along the street etc. Women also look at guys, don't forget that. Many men have started a relationship with a lady and gotten along far into life with them. However they still stray, but why? Is it because they are weak? Are they just despicable? No, it's because they don't get what they want/need from their female partners who have let themselves go from the hot girl to the not-hot girl because they've already snagged their guy and don't think they have to put in any more effort, or even if they stay the way they were in the courtship stage they may now require more persuasion and "stuff" to get the same effect.

It sounds bad when it comes down to it that men have to pay for the attention of a lady long enough for attention to change to affection and love. And then have to keep paying installments for life to keep at least some of that attention and affection. And women wonder why men run to other women? Is it possibly because the "rate of exchange" or cost/effort is less with someone else than with the initial lady? That the other lady is willing to do more for the same "cost"? It really all comes back to the ROI (return on investment) really, if one has to put it that bluntly.

Women have a much easier time of getting things out of men than men have of getting things out of women. So who's exploiting who? Women have Women's rights groups etc to fight for them, where is the man's support group? We are definitely not the stronger sex when it comes to exploitation; women have us beat by a mile...

(The floor is now open to the screams of outrage etc. I've got my helmet and riotgear ready and wearing a flameproof overall so hit me with your comments)

PS. My blogs always make more sense in my head as I write them up

PPS. The above is a work in progress and I will modify it as/if I can be persuaded well enough to make those changes